Overcoming depression 

I’m feeling really good about myself, my life and even though I’m unsure about what lays ahead of me, I’m genuinely happy. Maybe that isn’t a big deal to some of you, but it is a big step for me because it’s taken me quite some time to get to where I am, and to even feel this way and share it. I’ve struggled with depression since my mom died, but I never really noticed it until I was in 8th grade. It was really hard after my mom passed away, I went from foster home to foster home and it seemed like no one wanted me. Everything was so temporary.

Reasons for being depressed

I had completely shut down and I wasn’t connected with my inner being. I was sexually abused the summer before my 8th grade year. I kept that to myself for a month and when I finally broke down and couldn’t hold it any longer, I was accused of lying and had to move to another home. There was an investigation and it was so hard for me, all the questions and the number of people I had to tell my story to and every single time I was asked to give more detail. It was horrifying going back to that night. I was young and I didn’t understand why anyone would think I would lie about that, it was extremely traumatizing. Now that I’m older, I’ve learned the sad truth that some people do lie about something so serious and it disgusts me. But anway, my detective stopped coming over and I never heard from him again. Recently I heard through the grapevine that my abuser was registered as a sex offender and that his wife still to this day, does not believe me. So there’s that. I also started having really vivid dreams and they got worse overtime. The one that really triggered my depression to its highest peak was about my mom. I dreamt that she showed up at my sisters apartment and she was so different. She came inside and explained to us that she needed to get away, she wanted a new life. She faked her death and escaped from the hospital and changed her name. She then apologized, but I was too hurt to even listen to her. I kept crying and telling her how ever since she left my life had been hell. I woke up from my dream to her giving me a kiss goodbye and walking out my room and I ran after her but she vanished. I know it sounds crazy but my dream felt so real, I was truly convinced. I became so angry inside after that dream. I found a sense of relief when I cut myself one time which soon became a habit. I confessed my dirty habit to my closest friends and they showed me their cuts, it made us closer. We didn’t feel as alone anymore and each day we would share about how much we cut and with what and so on. Looking back it, I’m not sure why we bragged about it so much amongst each other. I guess we just didn’t want to lose that connection, so we stressed it as much as we could. Now I can’t remember the last time I cut, and that brings me true inner peace. Occasionally I will think about it when I feel really low, but then I look at my scars and the feeling goes away. I’m really ashamed of my scars, and I hate when people notice them because I can feel them judging me and having pity for me. I wrote a paper one time about my mom and I ended it with, The pain we feel today will soon be just a feeling from yesterday and since yesterday is past tense and we learn from our past, we can only grow from here on out and the pain we feel today will soon be a scar, a beautiful scar that we can look back at to remind us of our strength. I never connected that piece of advice to my scars from self harm. Hmm.

There are a couple more reasons but I’ll save that chapter for another day. I want to say that I do not encourage self harm, and if you are self harming, know that you are NOT alone and please talk to someone about it. I am no professional but if you ever want to share any stories of any kind, I’m all ears.
Teachers, administrators and several others have always told me how much I’ve changed and grown since they’ve met me. I can finally see the improvement and it’s something I’m really confident about. Don’t ever give up, I promise it gets better. I will be posting poems and a wide variety of topics. If there’s a topic you want to hear from me, or any questions you have, just let me know!

*I will be posting about my thoughts on really strong topics here soon, I will probably put a disclaimer of some sort just as a heads up.

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11 thoughts on “Overcoming depression 

  1. I am so happy that you’ve grown stronger,battled depression and won bu just reading this post…. I too went into depression once but it was just for a month… although I was also a person who loved to harm herself… at one point of time it had gotten really worse.. but now I have stopped doing it thanx to the support of my friends… they are the only ones who know… sometimes even now when i feel the urge to cut myself (mostly as an outlet for my anger) i just think about them and what would they so to me.. *winks* they had threatened me quite seriously if i ever cut again that they’ll end the friendship.. my friends mean the world to me so i stopped

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    1. Thank you and I’m really happy for you too! It makes me even happier knowing you have great friends who truly care about you. Everything takes patience, even learning to push the urge away. You’re so strong and amazing, I’m really proud of you. 🙂

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  2. Depression is a battle, and it sounds like you can see that. Though some people lie about sexual abuse, it is typically a very small percentage of people, and I am so beyond sad for you and that ingrained experience of not being believed and feeling re-traumatize with every breath. Hope you continue to find courage and strength with your voice and that your writing helps heal your scars.

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    1. Yes for sure. I always feel better after I write. I know it isn’t talked about a lot when people lie about it, it’s a topic that has definitely gotten my attention. I’ve mostly gotten over it, it just seeps into my thoughts sometimes, same with the depression. I’m not depressed, I just get scared every time I get upset. I feel like if I get too upset and get in that mind set that I won’t be able to get out of it and I will be stuck in depression, and I don’t want to be. I have definitely come a long way and I don’t plan on looking back. 🙂 thank you so much!

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  3. I’m glad to read that you are becoming more positive and have also stopped self harming. Know that you are the main person in charge of where your life goes. You’ve been a very strong person to move forward and also be brave enough to post about it. I wish you all the best in your progress.

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    1. I try my best to be as positive as I can, you never know when someone who isn’t feeling positive, needs it. It’s taken me a long time to get over the urge of self harming and I can finally say that I honestly don’t remember the last time I did. Thank you so much for your kind words, they really hit home. I wish you all the best in this new chapter in your life — you’re doing great! Again, thank you. 🙂

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