Self love is so important. Rarely are we taught that it is crucial to love ourselves, rarely do we as a society ever talk about self love. Self love is the key to happiness. You cannot do anything without loving yourself first. You can’t give someone else advice on how to be happy, if you’re not happy and love yourself because then your words have no meaning, no value. You need to believe what you say, truly believe what you say. It is so easy to cheer others up and forget about your own health and happiness, to leave yourself behind, but that doesn’t mean that you should or that it okay to neglect yourself. Your happiness begins with you and it is just as important as anyone else’s. When you are able to make yourself happy, anything is possible — I promise. It is such an uplifting feeling. In the process of loving yourself it may be hard to do so because of the pain you feel in those moments, but it is even more important to deal with that pain rather than to push it aside. You need to deal with your pain and push through it — not push it aside and do something to distract yourself. Distractions are good for a little while, right? But sooner or later it will catch up to you and eat at your heart. Deal with it now, save yourself from that. It’s almost like dragging the pain along when you use distractions and avoid dealing with it. Numbing yourself is not going to do anything for you in the long run. Numbing your pain is NOT you dealing with it, no. You’re just numbing it and like I said, that is not doing anything for your future. What is cutting yourself, drowning in your own sorrow, pushing your feelings aside and creating a distance between yourself going to do? Is that going to contribute any positivity to your life? Maybe you’ll like the numbness for a little while and then when it wears off? Then what? You can’t keep doing that to yourself. How can you try to get better when really you are just ruining yourself? You have to get to know yourself and losing yourself in the process is okay, don’t be afraid. It’s okay to put yourself out there, and to explore the deepest crevices of your soul and mind, widen your perspective. Learn something new about yourself. Cut off all the negativity from your life.
Pain is something that I feel like is a given in life, it’s always going to be a part of the equation, which is why you have to learn how to deal with it. Broaden your mindset and understand that pain essentially helps you grow and become wiser. You can potentially help someone else out in the future who is experiencing something that you already have dealt with and your words will truly have meaning. You can save someone with your wisdom.
Love yourself because you deserve it.